She had severe cerebral palsy, to the point where her mobility was limited to a wheelchair and she was also non-verbal. As a person, my challenging roomie felt completely defined by her disability, and wasn’t able to communicate at all. Which made her lash out at the unfairness of her situation.I struggled to find common ground with my challenging roomie, and I had trouble relating to her. Sometimes, when she got really angry she would get violent, and often hurt herself. I remember on one particular day, when I was the only one in the kitchen with her, she chased me around the kitchen with her wheelchair. Every time she drove her wheelchair into mine, my agitation grew. I hated feeling so unsafe in my own home, but there was nothing I could do about it. On that day, I had been rescued by other support workers intervening. But after that, I felt on edge anytime my challenging roomie moved around me.After that group home, I moved into another one with my sister. My life was completely different when I knew the person that I was living with.It makes a huge difference when you’re not living with people who you feel comfortable around. We’ve all heard stories from friends about how difficult it is to live with certain people. If you suffer from a high-needs disability, you never used to be able to choose your own roommates. That is until very recently, when the NDIS began offering support.
What it felt like for me living in a group homeI no longer live in a group home surrounded by a nursing home, I live in an apartment building in the middle of the city. I got to choose where I lived, and got to relish the fact that I no longer lived in a group home. As an independent adult, I decided not to live with a roommate. While I enjoy living on my own, my sister lives in her own apartment right above me so I can socialise with her anytime I want. Even though I didn’t enjoy my time in a group home, I have friends who really love the attention they receive there. They enjoy living in a building with other people who know them so well, and know disability extensively. Especially with a degenerative condition, access to a nurse that works in the group home can be really important.
Jamie-Lee celebrating her new SDA home